WHEN SHIT HAPPENS, TURN IT INTO FERTILIZER!

Shit does happen.

It is unavoidable.

This is part of life.

But you are the gardener and what you do with the “shit” that happens makes all the difference.

The challenges of life simply make you grow and provide the natural friction that causes you to evolve.

When shit happens in your life, you can turn it into an opportunity and use it to fertilize the soil of your life to grow beautiful roses.

Or you can go into judgment and victimhood, which will only stink up your backyard.

You choose.

How you see a situation will determine the reality that you experience in that moment. How you see the situation determines how you handle it – and how you handle it impacts your outcome.

Things happen in life that you cannot predict or control.

But what happens isn’t nearly as important as how you choose to experience and interpret it.

In this sense you create your reality. You create the reality you choose to experience at any given moment.

So why not create a reality that empowers you?

Your mind’s capacity to understand and see the totality of a situation is often limited.

When something happens that makes no sense in your life, it is easy to go into fear, judgment, anger, resistance, confusion. But this simply keeps you spinning and does nothing to change the situation.

We often only see one part of the puzzle or one scene of the movie and from this perspective things might not make sense.

When Gandhi was put in prison, rather than being angry and feeling like a victim, he asked for some materials. Whilst in prison he made a pair of sandals.

When he came out of prison, before he left he asked for the person in charge. When they met, he presented the sandals he had made as a gift to the very man that put him in prison.

The man was stunned. Gandhi’s point was powerfully made.

Gandhi chose to see his situation as an opportunity to promote peace and to love more, rather than retaliate in vengeance and anger.

How you deal with the things that happen to you will determine how much freedom you experience.

Anyone can deal with life when everything goes your way, but the real test is when things don’t go the way you expect or want.

A pessimist sees difficulty in opportunity. An optimist sees opportunity even in the midst of difficulty. Choose what empowers you the most.

So when faced with a challenging situation that you might not understand:

1-Breathe. Connect with the present moment.

2-Step back from the situation and take a look at the situation you are in from a broader perspective.

3-ASK:

-What can I learn in this situation? What is my lesson?

-How can I grow and use this for my soul’s evolution?

-How will I look back on this in the future and say it is the best thing to happen to me?

-What do I need to shift in my life that is out of alignment?

4-Take the actionneeded to bring yourself and the situation into balance. Do your part.

5-Release and let go of the outcome.

6-Trust the intelligence of life to work out the details.

Life has an intelligence that is way beyond the intelligence of our limited minds. The more you are willing to trust that, the more free you will be.

No matter what might be going on for you, use every experience you find yourself in for your growth and learning.

Ultimately in the game of life, the only thing that matters and that you get to keep is the evolution of your Soul.

Everything. Everything. Everything is in service to that. Sometimes we forget and get caught up in the drama of life’s movie.

When all is said and done and the game is over, the question becomes:

“How much did you grow in this school of life?

How much did you evolve and realize your true nature?

To the degree you did is to the degree you were a success.

Imagine had Mandela never gone to prison?

Imagine had Oprah never gone through her challenging childhood?

So when you find “shit” happening in your life.

Breathe.

Step back.

And use it to fertilize the soil of your life.

 
page come from KUTE BLACKSON

 

Simple Ways to Enhance the Natural Beauty of Your Eyes

It is said that the eyes are the windows to the soul. As such, the eyes are often considered among the most beautiful features we have. Beautiful eyes draw attention away from less attractive features and accent the more attractive qualities located at the upper part of the face. Most eyes have a degree of natural beauty, and enhancing that is often the work of a few simple actions that can result in dramatic results, from using traditional makeup to easy eyelash extension procedures.

Using traditional makeup to enhance your eyes' natural beauty

Simple traditional makeup tricks can help you accent your eyes with a more natural look. Something as simple as using mascara other than black or brown can really make your eyes pop! Blue and violet mascaras highlight different colors in the eye, and bring them to focus. Additionally, using eye shadow in shimmering colors that complement the natural color of your eyes can bring out their natural beauty. For blue or green eyes, pale colors in silver, green, and blue bring out your colors. Brown eyes can be accented with pastel and shimmery tan, beige, and pink. Placing a light color of eye shadow that is close to your skin tone underneath the eyes can reduce the appearance of dark circles and help them look less sunken in.

Eye creams to smooth the wrinkles away and eliminate dark circles

There are many creams available that help improve the appearance of the eyes. These enhance the natural beauty of the eye by reducing the appearance of wrinkles, dark circles, and puffiness. These things distract from the beauty of the eye and draw attention to blemishes. Simple creams made to firm skin and help create continuity of pigmentation can eliminate these distractions and allow others to focus on the beauty that exists naturally around your eyes.

Eyelash extension procedures

New technology has made it possible to improve the appearance of the eyes without makeup and without creams. Thick lashes that appear to curl upward enlarge the eyes and dramatize their beauty. Eyelash extension procedures do these things, and reduce or eliminate altogether the need for mascara. It is possible to receive permanent eyelash implants surgically, but one of the most popular new lash extension procedures is the use of synthetic eyelashes bonded to natural lashes. These extensions are individually and precisely placed for maximum effect. They are placed directly on the natural lashes, extended them longer and creating flexible curls and natural bounce. It takes only an hour or a little more to have eyelash extensions placed and when properly bonded and cared for (maintenance is actually rather low), they will last the life of the natural lash to which they are bonded.

There is no reason to let your eyes hide in ignominy. There are simple things that can be done, alone or in combination, to accent your eyes and draw attention to this lovely and expressive feature. By learning the tricks of the trade, you can easily enhance the natural beauty of your eyes.

What is an Eyelash Extension?

Many people find that for special events, or even for enhanced daily beauty, they would like thicker, fuller eyelashes. This is because thick lashes frame the eyes better and enhance their natural beauty. While it is possible to go to the corner store and purchase false eyelashes that you can apply yourself, more and more people are turning to the professional procedure known as eyelash extension.

An eyelash extension is a small, shaped material that is placed on top of your natural eyelash in order to provide length and thickness. Most extensions are made from synthetic materials, but there are some made from natural fibers. However, the synthetic materials often last longer and are less likely to cause irritation or allergic reaction. A lash extension is designed to enhance the look and shape of the eye in a way that looks natural and does not hinder everyday activities.

Lash extensions are considered semi permanent beauty aids. This is because an eyelash extension is designed to stay on the natural lash for a rather long period of time (anywhere from four weeks to 100 days), but will eventually fall off. With proper bonding, a semi permanent eyelash extension will remain in place until the natural lash falls out. While not considered a permanent eyelash (as eyelash implants are), eyelash extensions can provide a pain free way for one to look best and enhance natural beauty.

It is possible to get eyelash extensions in nearly any color. There are many shades that closely match natural eyelash shades, as well as colors like purple and blue that are a little trendier. These lash extensions are meant to add color and depth, and give the illusion of wearing colored mascara while still looking like natural lashes.

Most people who wear eyelash extensions find them acceptable substitutes to wearing mascara. They give a look that is longer and thicker than mascara, and they accomplish the same thing as mascara but without the clumping that can occur with mascara. Additionally, because lash extensions are water resistant, they will not run and leave black streaks, nor will they fall off if you go swimming, cry, or sweat. However, if you so choose, it is possible to wear mascara. Just do not wear waterproof mascara, as it will dissolve the bond between natural lash and extension. Additionally, when removing the mascara, make sure that you use an oil-free remover, as oil will also dissolve the adhesive.

Usually after a full eyelash extension application, it is only necessary to go in for touch ups if you maintain a schedule of four to six weeks. If you only go in every two to three months, if is likely that you will need a full lash extension application each time you go in. Because natural lashes fall out at different times, the extensions that are bonded to them fall out as well. Touch ups can help keep your lashes looking thick, full, and beautiful, using the eyelash extensions to their full effect.

Wearing Lash Extensions

Wearing lash extensions can be a very rewarding experience that helps you boost your appearance and improve your ocular health. An eyelash extension is bonded to your natural lash to help make it longer and add volume to your lashes over all. Because they are also curled slightly, they reach upward, helping your eyes look more open and dramatically framing them. They can help improve the health of your eyes by eliminating the use of mascara, one of the main culprits for eye irritation and infection.

The use of eyelash extensions as beauty aids is becoming an increasingly popular way to change the way one looks without resorting to surgery. It is a simple solution that is relatively easy to accomplish, and most lash extensions are maintenance free. As long as proper bonding between the semi permanent eyelash and the natural eyelash takes place, it is possible to wear eyelash extensions almost anywhere and participate in almost any activity. This makes it possible for you to look your best, and draw attention to your eyes, while you do almost anything. The fact that eyelash extensions are waterproof is a big plus, ensuring that you can go swimming and take showers without worrying whether or not your extensions will fall off.

One of the biggest benefits associated with wearing lash extensions, however, is how it makes mascara obsolete in your makeup regimen. Mascara is designed to lengthen and thicken lashes, as well as curl them. An eyelash extension does all of these things, but without running when wet, smudging, or smearing. Additionally, you do not have to worry about the occasional slip resulting in an eye poke that while it may not cause permanent damage, causes serious setbacks in your daily routine. Mascara is also a major cause of infection and eye irritation. This is because when it dries many people attempt to moisten it and succeed mostly in introducing bacteria into the mascara supply. Mascara should not be kept any longer than three months, but many people use it until it is gone. With eyelash extensions, the use of mascara is not necessary, and that can save hassle and prevent eye problems.

In order to maintain the best look, however, it is a good idea to have touch up eyelash extension applications every three weeks or so. Because the extensions are directly attached to the natural lashes, they will fall out as the normal lash cycle progresses. So, while the extensions will not cause lashes to fall prematurely, they will fall as part of the ordinary life of the eyelash. This can create gaps after two or three weeks. If you keep up with touch ups, however, you will be able retain the look at a reasonable price (touch ups usually cost much less than full applications).

An eyelash extension looks and feels natural. It boosts the look of your eyes, and can also improve your confidence, as you feel better about yourself. In addition to these benefits, lash extensions also pave the way for you to get rid of your mascara and help you better maintain the over all heath of your eyes.

 

Reasons an Eyelash Extension Might Fall Off

The best eyelash extension products will last at least two months, and some last as long as 100 days. When receiving extensions, it is important to note that they should only be applied by professionals. Semi permanent eyelashes are not the same as false eyelashes. They come individually, and need to be applied individually. They do not come on strips like the false lashes bought at stores and worn once before being discarded. They are extensions, and are applied to the natural lashes. Because even natural lashes fall out, it is reasonable to expect that extensions will eventually begin to drop off. However, there are a few common reasons that your eyelash extensions might fall off before the end of the natural cycle.

The key to a successful lash extension experience is to make sure that proper bonding takes place. If the bonding is done improperly, or not allowed to properly set, the lash extensions will not hold to the natural eyelashes and will fall off much sooner than otherwise. Find out whether or not your cosmetologist has received training in the use of the products she or he uses. Many programs offer certificates of completion so that you can make sure that your beautician is properly prepared with the techniques that will ensure proper bonding.

Another important part of proper bonding is avoiding the water for at least two hours after the application of your semi permanent eyelash extensions. While eyelash extensions can be worn in water and are resistant to tears and sweat, they should be kept dry for the hours immediately following application. The bonding solution is usually set enough for you to leave the salon within a few minutes of the procedure's end, but the solution and extensions are not completely bonded until hours later.

Issues of proper care also arise. When you do not care for your lash extensions properly, you will find that they fall out much sooner. Using an eyelash brush can help you keep your lashes looking neat, as well as provide good care for them. You should not rub your eyes if you want your eyelash extensions to last as long as possible. Rubbing your eyes is not good for the over all health of the eye in general, and excessive, regular rubbing can force the extensions to fall off the eye. A sealant can help increase lash protection and help you maintain the extensions longer.

Waterproof mascara is another culprit that causes eyelash extensions to fall before their time. Because waterproof mascara itself creates a bond as it coats the lashes, this can cause problems for extensions. It is difficult to remove waterproof mascara from any lash, and removing it from a lash extension may result in breaking the bond that holds the eyelash extension to the lash.

Semi permanent eyelash extensions can add beauty to anyone's eyes, male or female. When properly applied and cared for, these extensions can last months, providing you with great lashes to frame your eyes.

Proper Care of Your Eyelash Extensions

If you want to get the most out of your eyelash extensions, it is important to properly care for them. Lash extensions that are not properly cared for will fall out sooner and can even be the cause of irritation for the eyes. In order to maintain good ocular health, as well as lengthen the life of your extensions, it is imperative that you practice proper maintenance of your eyelash extensions. If you properly care for your extensions, they will likely remain in place until the natural lashes that hold them fall out.

The beauty of eyelash extensions is that they are fairly maintenance free. There is not a whole lot that needs to be done in order to facilitate their upkeep. After all, they are just an extension of the natural lash. They are designed to enhance your eyes and add a thicker, fuller look to the eyelashes. If you follow a few simple rules, you will be able to easily maintain your lash extensions and keep them much longer.

Do not rub your eyes. Not only is rubbing your eyes harmful to the health of your eyes, but it can also rip your extensions out or remove your natural lashes (and the extensions bonded to them). Rubbing your eyes can introduce diseases into the eyes and damage them. And it can damage the look you have achieved by causing extensions to fall.

Use an eyelash brush. Part of good maintenance is a neat appearance. Gently using an eyelash brush will help improve the look and length of the natural lashes as well as the lash extensions. Additionally, it will keep lashes and extensions from clumping or sticking together.

Be careful of what other beauty products you use. Most people are so pleased with the look of their eyelash extensions that they do not feel that the use of mascara is warranted or necessary. However, it is possible to use mascara when you have extensions; it should be water based, however, and not waterproof. Waterproof mascara's agents interfere with the adhesive used on semi permanent eyelash extensions and can cause the bonding solution to become compromised, resulting in the fall of your extensions.

Additionally, oil-based beauty products should not be used around the eyes while you are wearing extensions. This includes makeup, makeup remover, skin creams, and cleansers. These will interfere with the bonding and cause the eyelash extensions to fall out.

Have a sealant applied after the procedure. One way to gain a protective extension coat is to have an eyelash extension sealant applied after the extension procedure is completed. A sealer will strengthen the bond and protect the extension against breakage. While not a necessary part of lash extension care, a sealant can contribute greatly to the longevity of your extensions.
With the proper attention to the care of your eyelash extensions, you can enjoy them for even more than the two months that most salons say is the average life of the extensions. It is possible to have lash extensions last for as many as 100 days with proper maintenance.

 

光棍日

相信婚姻吗?

 

如果有人问我相信婚姻吗？ 哼···我，竟然回答不了！！很恐惧要对着这么庞大的责任。结婚只是一个开始，接下来的日子如何相处才是最大关系。婚姻更是将两家没有血缘关系的人凑合起来。幸运的话双方的家长都合得来，如果不是当然也是一个问题所在。

从前自己不应许自己怀孕结婚，可现在的想法就不同了，没有到必要的时候是不可能花时间去想到结婚。有时候想深一层，结婚除了生子以外，有什么不同？别人我不知道，但对我言真的没差。或许在30岁的时候又会有不一样的想法，现在的我真还不适合做人妻和人家媳妇，在这方面的思想还不够稳定和成熟。

虽然爱情长跑快达11年了,但还很享受此刻的生活，没有双方的背景压力，没有做人妻的包袱更还能任性的欺负着蜜糖张。下个月2号是和蜜糖张你一起度过11年的周年，刚和你开始的时候完全没想过能够和你一起在一起那么久。因为大家那时候心智都还很懵懂，我更幼气无比。还以为是谈谈散托就无果而终，不过现在看似像从一而终多点。

现在大多数的人都有这样的情况  -----  没结婚的像结婚的一样同居，结婚的像没结婚的一样分居；动物像人一样穿衣服，人像动物一样露着肉；小孩像大人一样成熟，大人像小孩一样幻稚；女人像男人一样爷们，男人像女人一样娘们；没钱的像有钱的一样装富，有钱的像没钱的一样装穷；情人像夫人一样四处招摇，夫人像情人一样深居简出。

如果不爱，千万别勉强在一起
如果不能给对方幸福，就不要因为无聊寂寞和他（她）在一起
找一个喜欢自己又自己又喜欢的人。虽然很难，可是一定会有
婚姻是将错就错的话，那也得找个相对靠谱的来错。要不就是很合眼，要不就是很谈得来，要不就是有共同理想，总之一定要有感觉，有爱。那么，无论以后怎么变，毕竟有过那么段幸福时光。
婚姻中得互相理解宽容，若做不到，说明这个人不是你将错就错的对象。因为既然都选择在一起了，那整天因为一点事情吵架太无趣了。
敢做敢当。坦诚，不虚伪。如果连自己的另一半都不能表露真实，那活得多累？干吗和这个在一起？现在的时代不一样了，如果要花心，就要花心就在婚前一次性花个够，结婚了就该定性了，不然就别学人一样跑去结婚，婚姻此终不是儿戏玩意。

S.F.L..L

SMILE like you’ve never cried

FIGHT like you’ve never lost

LOVE like you’ve never been hurt

LIVE like there’s no tomorrow

A Place Nearby

 

秤子基本上是很矛盾的人。表面上总是很有活力，很快乐的样子，可是没人的时候他们又总是很忧伤。

天秤总会被一种莫名的悲伤笼罩，他们不会让人发现。

天秤座的人很怕被伤害被抛弃，也怕带给别人伤害和不快乐，只能自己硬挺着一切。

所以他们很神经质，精神脆弱，容易感伤。
 

路有多远，只有心知道。

最美的旅程，其实就是不断的经历。

一路上有些美丽，让世界为之安静；有些语言，让世界为之倾听；有些力量，让世界因此前行。

也总有一种感动，让人泪流满面；总有一种呼唤，让人痛彻心菲；总有一种情愫，让人难以释怀。其实有

时不用所谓的美丽，不用所谓的智慧。

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I entered the room
Sat by your bed all through the night
I watched your daily fight
I hardly knew
The pain was almost more than I could bear
And still I hear
Your last words to me

Heaven is a place nearby
So I wont be so far away
And if you try and look for me
Maybe you will find me someday
Heaven is a place nearby
So there is no need to say goodbye
I wanna ask you not to cry
I will always be by your side

You just faded away
You spread your wings you had flown
Away to something unknown
Wish I could bring you back
You are always on my mind
About to tear myself apart.
You have your special place in my heart

Always heaven is a place nearby
So I wont be so far away
And if you try and look for me
Maybe you will find me someday
Heaven is a place nearby
So there is no need to say goodbye
I wanna ask you not to cry
I’ll always be by your side

And even when I go to sleep
I still can hear your voice
And those words
I never will forget

Heaven is a place nearby
So I wont be so far away
And if you try and look for me
Maybe you will find me someday
Heaven is a place nearby
So there is no need to say goodbye
I wanna ask you not to cry
I will always be by your side

缪塞《雏菊》

淡淡的，我爱着，

什么也不说，只看你在对面微笑；

我爱着，只要我心里知觉，

不必知晓你心里对我的想法；

我珍惜我的秘密，也珍惜淡淡的忧伤，

那不曾化作痛苦的忧伤……

我爱着放弃你，

不怀抱任何希望，但不是没有幸福。

只要能够怀念，就足够幸福，

即使不再能够看到对面微笑的你。

——缪塞《雏菊》