咖啡屋

我希望

能够拥有自己的咖啡屋

全部由我自己摆设

播放我喜欢的音乐

无论是在雨天还是晴天


 这里永远是我快乐的一片天地

这是我的一个梦

每首歌都包含了我一个小小的秘密

这个世界上，有太多只能相见一次的人。在见到他那一刻，你已知晓此后彼此永久的消失。跋涉来到壮景前，不是为了叹息终章。轰烈纵情，不是为了记得，是为了向茫茫生命你们曾存在与燃烧。这个世界上，有太多只能相见一次的人，有太多只盛放一次的花。
每当回首时就觉得自己在不断理性。成长过程中的感悟，使我一次次在人群中确定自己。随着时间和经历的增长，觉得获得了越来越多的感触，让我更能运筹帷幄的去确定自己。以往懵懂所走的岔路，找到了出口。然而再回首时，看到的是自己仍然在原地打转。


于是开始不停寻找已往的感触与生活。那没完没了的伤痛，模糊又清楚的日子，忘不了火花擦亮的那瞬间。太多的心酸与幸福，太多的无奈和泪水，太多的心疼和急迫，太多的惊奇与狂喜……仿佛就在昨天，一幕幕在我眼前上演。而为什么再回首，我会依然在原地行走？
以往我一直期待进行中的事，屡屡遇到了瓶颈。不得不一次次缓下速度，等待……长期的困顿使人苦恼不安。即将要迈出的下一步该何去何从？情绪紊乱的难以理清。环境的配合度却总是围绕以往接触过的人与事，似乎又被困在了围城里，渐渐的有种寸步难行的感觉。


爱是这样的，它不是只有两个人毫无顾及的世界。我们的一生要遇见多少个涉及自己的事情。
这些事情说大，不可以大到生死，说小不可以小到无所畏惧。而这些事情都必须需要亲历亲为。于是开始回想自己去认真的生活了吗？是追求过程，还是享受结果？是追求浪漫，还是安于平淡？追求谁是，还是追求谁非？

原来在不断获得的同时，不经意间也在不停的失去……很多事也许没有经历过，就觉得不值得去想像。又或者经历过，但很多人的想法与我不同。不同的想法就会有对这个事情，或这个世界不同的意见与理解。


平凡又琐碎的日子，平凡的人，我相信所有经历里的伤痛，给予我的并不是失败！也无须去计较得失，也许失去后，留下更多的是对自身正确的认识，对人生的理解。心，永远不要因为所承受重量留下的划痕，而偷偷溜走，越走越远……很多那苦思冥想都没有结果的痛苦，只不过是必然要经历的阶段而已！在马上到达目的地之前，需要更谨慎的思考，事情的发生都是有迹可寻的，只要真正的找到节奏失序的那个环节，重新整顿一下生活步调，就可以再度步上轨道！其实要多么简单就有多么简单。

一切的一切，经历与生活，经历与爱情，经历与亲情，经历与你的世界，我的世界，他的世界……经历伴随我们行走在自己的世界里，也许很多次都无法确定自己，我仍会急流勇进，享受经历里季节的寒冷，在寒冷里确定阳光的温暖。告诉自己：心，别走的太远……

致我们终将逝去的青春：20多岁后悔没去做的8件事

Life is filled with regrets. Ask anyone around you what their regrets are and they usually have no difficulty coming up with many items on their “regret list.” And for some reason our twenties are ripe for a field of regrets.
人生总是充满遗憾。问问你周围的人他们有没有遗憾的事情，他们会轻而易举的列出一大堆“遗憾清单”。由于某些原因，20多岁最容易犯错的年纪。

Perhaps it’s because as we get older we look back on that period of adulthood as the height of freedom andautonomy. As move into middle age, we look back and wish that we had made better choices and taken more opportunities. Here’s a list of things that we regret not doing in our 20s.
也许是因为随着年龄的增长，当我们再次回顾那段时光，会发现那是一段充满自由和独立的时光。随着我们步入中年，我们经常希望：要是我们能再有更多选择的机会多好啊！以下就列举了一些如果我们在20来岁没有做就会让我们后悔的事情：

1. Travelling more
I regret not travelling more, and so does nearly everyone that I have asked. Before kids, and mortgages and marriages, when our commitments and expenses were lower, the opportunities for travel were much greater, but for some reason many of us thought we’d always have time for travel later.

我后悔没有到更多的地方去旅行，而且几乎我问过的每个人都会这样说。在有孩子之前、在抵押贷款和结婚之前，在我们需要承担的责任和花销较少时，正是旅游的大好机，但是由于种种原因，我们总觉得我们以后会有更多的时间去旅行。

We dreamed of visiting the pyramids of Egypt, surfing off the Hawaiian coast, dining at a Parisian café, drinking espresso in Rome, trekking through the rainforest, and so much more. Sadly, many of us never made these journeys and the opportunity passed us by.
我们梦想过去埃及看金字塔，在夏威夷海边冲浪，在巴黎的咖啡馆共进晚餐，在罗马品尝香浓的咖啡，徒步穿越热带雨林等等诸如此类的计划。可悲的是，大部分人都没有付诸行动，只是看着机会白白溜走。

2. Investing early
How many times have we kicked ourselves for not starting our 401Ks，in our twenties, for not putting our excess cash in long term investments, for not investing in our future early. No matter how much we try, we can never get back the head start that we missed. Playing catch up in our 40’s and 50’s is very difficult.
多少次回想我们都恨不得踢自己一脚：为什么不在20来岁就开始401K（小编注：美国的一种养老金制度）计划，为什么没有将多余的现金用于长期投资，为什么没有早早的为我们未来投资。不管我们再怎么努力，错过的时光都不会重来了。等到我们四五十岁的时候再奋起直追已为时已晚了。

3. Being more responsible with spending

In order to invest in our retirement or save for that down payment, we would have needed to make wiser financial spending choices. Things like buying or holding on to that perfectly reliable used car, instead of splurging on the new model…because we could, eating out less and saving for a house instead, buying fewer shoes and purses and clothes and paying off student loans sooner. So many saving opportunities lost, money spent on tangible things, instead of on the future.
为了退休后的投资或房子的首付，我们需要更合理的理财。比如说买一辆不错的二手车，而不是把钱浪费在新款车型上……我们也可以减少外出就餐，攒钱买房子，少买点鞋子和衣服，提前还清助学贷款。这么多的攒钱机会都错过了，我们用钱换来了很多实实在在的物品，却没有更多关注我们的未来。

4. Better planning
I regret not focusing more on where I wanted to go in life, what I wanted to do, who I wanted to be and what it would take to get there. With some more planning in our twenties, we’d be further ahead in our 40s and perhaps a bit happier as well.
我后悔我没有仔细思考我的人生道路，我想要做的事情，我想成为一个什么样的人以及如何才能实现。如果在20多岁的时候我们能更好的规划人生，我们在40多岁的时候就会更上一层楼，也许还会感觉到更幸福。

5. Seizing more experiences
I wish I had learned to ski and paint, speak Italian and do the Tango. I regret not living somewhere else before settling down. Others have said they regret not pursuing their hobbies or learning to sky dive or mountain climb. I prefer to stay on the ground, but I do regret not learning more, not trying new things that are hard to fit into the life of a forty something working wife and mother.
我多希望我以前学会了滑雪、画画，会说意大利语，会跳探戈。我后悔在安定下来之前没有在别的地方生活过。很多人也都和我一样后悔没有持之以恒的培养自己的爱好，没有学跳伞，没有去爬山。我确实更喜欢务实，但也很后悔没有去学更多的东西，没有尝试新事物，这些事物已经无法再融入一个40岁的全职妻子加母亲的生活中了。
6. Living a more active lifestyle
The bodies of youth are wasted on the young… I wish I had run a marathon before my knees ached, that I had biked more, hiked more, and took spinning classes when my legs were stronger. I regret not joining a softball team or volleyball league. We don’t often realize that we havesquandered our physical abilities until things start aching and creaking.
年轻的时候，我们肆意的挥霍着我们的青春活力……我多想在我膝关节疼痛之前能跑场马拉松，多骑骑自行车、多走走看看，在腿脚强健的时候多骑骑动感单车。我后悔没有参加垒球社团或排球联盟。总是等到体力透支病痛来袭，我们才意识到年轻时锻炼的可贵。

7. Making more friends
I regret not reaching out more, putting more effort into creating a tribe of support that would carry me through more difficult times. We socialize sure, but many of us don’t put enough importance on building deep and lasting friendships. Some do, many don’t and wish they had.
我后悔没有更多的伸出手去，没有更努力去结交那么一伙儿可以陪我度过更多艰难时光的朋友。我们确实也有交际，但是大多数人并没有把重心放在建立更深更持久的友情上面。一些人做到了，但是还有很人却没有，他们希望当初曾为友情努力过。

8. Pursuing a more meaningful career
Many of us wish we had taken more career risks, opted for meaning over money, pursued the career path we wanted instead of what we were expected to do or simply following the path that was laid out before us. How much better to have explored our options and pursued meaningful work in our twenties than to have spent 20 years doing something we don’t love.
大部分人都是听从别人的期待去工作或者按照别人铺好的路去走，而不愿冒更多的职业风险和遵循我们的内心去工作挣钱。比起20多年一直从事自己不喜欢的工作，能在20多岁时自己选择并去追求一份更有意义的工作是多么的好啊！

Life is good; don’t misunderstand. Few of us walk around every day pining for our youth, at least I hope not, but we do occasionally look back with a wistful sigh and wish that we planned more, lived more, and stretched ourselves more when we had the freedom and energy to do so.

BMR or Basal Metabolic Rate Explained

A person’s basal metabolic rate, or BMR, is the amount of calories a person consumes a day without being physically active. The rate only includes basic metabolic functions like sustaining internal body temperature, cell repair, pumping blood, breathing, etc. In other words, the energy your body needs if you would do nothing else, but relax on the couch all day.

BMRis important in determining your overall metabolic rate and the amount of calories you need to maintain, lose, or gain weight. BMR results are different for everyone and are influenced by factors such as:

 

- Genetics. Everyone’s metabolism is different.

- Gender. Generally, men are more muscular and have a lower body fat percentage. Their basal metabolic rate is therefore often higher.

- Age. BMR decreases with age, and will drop about 2 per cent by decade after the age of 20.

- Weight. The heavier you are, the higher your BMR.

- Height-Weight Ratio. The more body surface area, the higher your BMR.

- Body Fat. People with less body fat will have a higher BMR.

- Diets. Serious calorie-reduction can dramatically reduce your BMR. Restrictive, low-calorie weight loss regimens can cause a BMR drop of as much as 20%.

- Internal Temperature. When you have a fever, your BMR will grow; any body temperature increase of 0.5C will boost your basal metabolic rate by about 7 percent.

- External temperature. The body’s surrounding temperature also affects your BMR. Cold will increase your BMR, because more energy is needed to maintain your normal body temperature.

- Thyroxin. Thyroxin is produced by the thyroid gland and a key BMR-regulator.

The more thyroxin is produced, the higher your BMR.

- Exercise. Physical activities like exercise and sports will help to burn calories and raise your BMR. It also builds up extra lean tissue.

 

Short term BMR fluctuations

 

BMR can be influenced temporarily by factors such as:

- Fever

- High stress levels

- Increase or decrease of environmental temperature

- Fasting and starvation

Methods to determine BMR

You can determine your caloric maintenance level through a number of scientific formulas, all of which will take your age, gender, height, weight, activity level, and lean body mass (LBM) into account. Keep in mind that your calculations are only estimates, as no equation can accurately calculate your personal BMR. If you are on a diet, adjust your calorie intake according to the amount of weight you want to lose in a specific time frame. Make sure you use the activity multiplier. Remember, a BMR is your calorie usage without any physical activity!

 

Activity Multiplier

- Little or no exercise, desk job = BMR X 1.2

- Light exercise/sports 1-3 days/wk = BMR X 1.375

- Moderate exercise/sports 3-5 days/wk= BMR X 1.55

- Hard exercise/sports 6-7 days/wk= BMR X 1.725

- Hard daily exercise/sports & physical job or 2X training/day= BMR X 1.9

The following are popular BMR estimation formulas.

 

The Harris-Benedict formula

These calculations are based on total body weight, but also uses of height, weight, age, and gender to determine basal metabolic rate.

 

- Men: BMR = 66 + (13.7 X wt in kg) + (5 X ht in cm) - (6.8 X age in years)

- Women: BMR = 655 + (9.6 X wt in kg) + (1.8 X ht in cm) - (4.7 X age in years)

 

MD Mifflin and ST St Jeor Equation

These formulas are based on body weight, and do not take into account the difference in metabolic activity between lean body mass and body fat. They are less suited for heavy people.

- Men: RMR = (9.99 X wt in kg) + (6.25 X ht in cm)– (4.92 X age in years) + 5

- Women: RMR = (9.99 X wt in kg) + (6.25 X ht in cm)– (4.92 X age in years) – 161

 

Katch-McArdle formula

This equation is based on lean body weight, which means you need to know your lean body mass (LBM). Because of the added factor, this formula is more accurate than others.

 

- BMR for men & women = 370 + (21.6 X LBM in kg)

 

Adjust your caloric intake according to your goal

Once you know the amount of calories you need per day to stay healthy and be active, you can adjust your calorie intake according to your goals. To keep your weight stable, you should remain at your daily caloric maintenance level. If you want to lose a few kilos, you need to create a calorie deficit and reduce your daily calorie intake according to your objectives. The fewer calories you take in, the quicker you will lose the weight. If you need to gain weight, add to your maintenance level calorie intake. Adjust your diet gradually to avoid health risks and throwing your metabolism out of whack.

Keep track of your results, and adjust your eating plan if progress is too slow or too quick. If any health problems arise, consult your physician immediately.

安逸的生活能毀滅一個人

安逸的生活能毀滅一個人。

 

有這樣一個故事。

有一個人死後，在去閻羅殿的路上，遇見一座金碧輝煌的宮殿。宮殿的主人請求他留下來居住。

這個人說：「我在人世間辛辛苦苦地忙碌了一輩子，我現在只想吃，只想睡，我討厭工作。」

宮殿的主人答道：「那麼世界上再也沒有比我這裏更適合你居住的了。這裏有山珍海味，你想吃什麼就吃什麼，不會有人來阻止你；這裏有舒服的床鋪，你想睡多久就睡多久，不會有人來打擾你；而且，我保證沒有任何事情需要你做。」

於是，這個人就住了下來。

開始一段日子，這個人吃了睡，睡了吃，感到非常快樂。漸漸地，他覺得有點寂寞和空虛，於是他就去見宮殿主人，抱怨道：「這種每天吃吃睡睡的日子過久了也沒有意思。我現在是腦滿腸肥了，對這種生活已經提不起一點興趣了。你能否為我找一份工作？」

宮殿的主人答道：「對不起，我們這裏從來就不曾有過工作。」

 

 這樣一個故事。

有一個人死後，在去閻羅殿的路上，遇見一座金碧輝煌的宮殿。宮殿的主人請求他留下來居住。

這個人說：「我在人世間辛辛苦苦地忙碌了一輩子，我現在只想吃，只想睡，我討厭工作。」

宮殿的主人答道：「那麼世界上再也沒有比我這裏更適合你居住的了。這裏有山珍海味，你想吃什麼就吃什麼，不會有人來阻止你；這裏有舒服的床鋪，你想睡多久就睡多久，不會有人來打擾你；而且，我保證沒有任何事情需要你做。」

於是，這個人就住了下來。

開始一段日子，這個人吃了睡，睡了吃，感到非常快樂。漸漸地，他覺得有點寂寞和空虛，於是他就去見宮殿主人，抱怨道：「這種每天吃吃睡睡的日子過久了也沒有意思。我現在是腦滿腸肥了，對這種生活已經提不起一點興趣了。你能否為我找一份工作？」

宮殿的主人答道：「對不起，我們這裏從來就不曾有過工作。」又過了幾個月，這個人實在忍不住了，又去見宮殿的主人：「這種日子我實在受不了。如果你不給我工作，我寧願去下地獄，也不要再住在這裏了。」

宮殿的主人輕蔑的笑了：「你以為這裏是天堂嗎？這裏本來就是地獄啊！」安逸的生活原來也是一種地獄啊！它雖然沒有刀山可上，沒有火海可蹈，沒有油鍋可赴，可它能漸漸地毀滅你的理想，腐蝕你的心靈，甚至可以讓你變成一具行屍走肉。

 

【智語】：安逸的生活是我們嚮往的，短暫的安逸生活，能使我們得到休息和寧靜。但長期的安逸的生活，會使我們感到寂寞，感到沒事可做，而失去理想。同時也失去了快樂。

Dec' 12 - Jan' 13

最近都不知道为啥忙碌？有时候感觉时间真的不够用可在事实上又不是这样。工作，忙？假期，忙？玩乐，忙？派对，忙？突发事件（灾难），忙？HMM。。。。 通通都可说有关联吧！就趁现在有点忙里偷闲简约的记录这两个月发生的事情。

05/12/12 - X’MAS Charity

Tagatay是菲律宾的一个像马来西亚金马伦的一个地方。那里的风景优美，空气更不像城市里的尘气充天，我带着一个很愉快的心情和那边的小朋友玩了。一个好的环境真会让人轻松满脸享受当中整天的过程。

13/12/12

这天是蜜瓜张的姐姐伟大的日子，他的宝宝就在今天诞生这个世界。下午得知她进院待产的那刻所有人都充满紧张和欢喜的等待宝宝呱呱落地。紧张的当然少不了我，搞到好像是我自己本身在生似的，三五不时催蜜瓜张打电话回家询问最新消息。宝宝真的好顽皮，他亲爹和娘都期待他在12/12/12年出世，怎知道像爸爸一样那么的顽皮，他们所称的（乖烂）哈哈哈！他偏偏就往后一天才向大家请安~~ 哎呀呀~不过呢在什么时候出生也不重要，最重要是母子平安嘛！
                                  终于来临了！他就是ZENZO

晚上就约了几位同事兼友人出来提早庆祝圣诞节。自选的地方并不理想，才到不久LIVE BAND他们也开始放工了，不能完全尽兴。不过醉翁之意不在酒，大家也只不过想出来聚聚感受外面圣诞节的气氛。

18/12/12

ＳＡＫＡＩ　ＬＥＧＯ　ＰＡＲＴＹ！！！　当天我们大家都玩得如此疯癫和开心。首次登上游艇的我真让人震氛！　当天也为小孟庆祝生日了！

                                      

24/12/12 – 30/12/12

回家ＬＵＲ！！！终于可以休息７天回我家去。不要以为回家的我就能躺在家不动，回家那段假期也是挺劳碌的，但我爱这样的劳碌。因为不需要工作！！！


24/12/12

张家小小姐１８岁生日。回家当天她哥哥（蜜瓜张）就和她出去添加当天烧烤的食料。我呢就因还没来得及准备礼物，就得在商场打滚。终于也让我买到水晶手链，如果不是时间的关系我一定不会购买，个人觉得那水晶链不值那个价钱，但也没办法啦，有礼物胜过空手去嘛。

25/12/12

提早爸爸的生日，当天开了2桌请自家人一起享用晚饭然后他们还提议2ND ROUND。 真的不能小看这班阿姨，姨丈们。这班Auntie & Uncle还蛮IN的，喝酒 & Dart 也难不倒他们。 酒量也不错的他们都点了2次Twin Lamborghini 来喝，过后还说甜甜的味道还不赖···哈哈哈，真无语了啦我！！自己还在瞎担心他们一晚。自己也只能乖乖的观看着他们一滴滴的喝进嘴里和禁食，因为明早需要Body Check-up。

26/12/12

约好医生的时间我竟然睡过了头迟到了。爸爸也因为昨晚的醉意还在睡觉，那只好妈妈载我咯～（本人不是不会驾驶，只不过懒惰罢了）也顺便做回女儿的本色，什么也不会，什么也不懂，什么都要依赖爸妈来。妈妈放下我就轮到蜜瓜张接我顺便还钱（不来的话就不够钱付了）

27/12/12 – 29/12/12

槟城３天２夜之旅。出动全家人，全家人的意思是包括家里２只坏蛋（Happy & Hippy）为了它们俩还要特别找能够容纳它们的住宿呢。不过如果不是它们，我们也不知道那个地方能够带来如此轻松和亲切的感觉。

30/12/12

铛铛铛！！　今天是爸爸的生日。可是我却要回菲律宾了。这７天就这样快过去，又需要恢复心情做工了！农历新年快到来，我才能够在回家！！

01/01/13

Happy New Year 2013 ~~~ SAKAI们出来庆祝那里能够少了我呢？当晚喝到不省人事，当晚发生什么事完全交给陌生人保管。哈哈哈哈，被剪片了～　回家还滚下幸好只有３－４级的梯级，第二天清醒后才知道痛！我的好蜜瓜张如何照顾我的？照顾到跌倒叻！嘻嘻嘻，最伤的不是我而是他就因不要我跌死他‘垫地’

08/01/13

家里失火！！真把我吓坏了～